Tips for Educators on Balancing School Demands and Family Time

Educators work hard. I’ve lived with educators for 43 years and have been one for 22. I know many people in other professions. I can confidently say that educators work hard download.jpgwhile at school and also from home. Sometimes they take that work home and other times it just shows up. Figuring out how to balance that work with being an exemplary member of their family is something I know many educators struggle with.

There seems to be a big push for “self-care” recently. I have nothing against the term or thought process. But I’ve always connected with the term “balance.” I haven’t needed a boost in self-esteem, to go do something for myself, or a reminder of what my needs are. The bigger struggle for me has been to maintain a healthy balance between the demands of my job and my role in our family.

Do I attend the board meeting or my daughter’s basketball game? Should I finish the last set of report cards or pick my son up from daycare for once this week? Since I have 3 committee meetings this week will my spouse have to wake the kids up and get them to school alone? If I take an hour to read through all my school emails tonight will I miss reading to my kids at bedtime? If I just stay at school another hour I can get the lesson plans done for next month but will I make it for my son’s choir concert? download.jpg

Question after question. Dilemma after dilemma. Just choose family first, right?  Seems easy.  Well, then you have guilt for leaving school while there is still work to be done. You worry about the email you saw on your phone but didn’t respond to it.  It’s not that easy. It also doesn’t help me for someone to tell me to be balanced or to practice self-care. That may work for others. I need specific and intentional strategies that hold me accountable for making a change in how I operate.

In my 22 years, I’ve gotten better at finding the appropriate balance. I don’t have it all figured out and there are phases where I’m out of balance. But I’ve certainly improved. The biggest reason I’ve improved is that I’ve had dozens of teachers sit in front of me and share that they were also struggling. I didn’t always have the answer but we worked on it together. We stumbled upon some strategies that made us feel better, more balanced. It hasn’t been due to a change in mindset but instead implementing those specific strategies.

I’m going to share eight with you and maybe they can help you with this neverending struggle. Some of them I’ve used myself and others I have worked with teachers to implement. Here are my 8.

1. Early riser or stay late? – I believe you must make a choice. You will not be able to sustain the marathon of a year or a career if you come a couple hours before school and stay a few hours later. Choose one or the other.

2. The power of NO – You can’t be on every committee or attend every event. All educators need to be able to say no when it tilts their balance away from home and family. If necessary, write out a list of all the things you have volunteered to do. If that list is too long, decide what must stay and what could go. Or, keep a list of the things you are asked to do and see what the balance of yes to no is for you.

3. Organizing your daily to-do list. I’m a to-do list kind of person, always have been. I started to structure my list differently, knowing that it never truly ends and therefore leaves me feeling unsuccessful. The top half of my list is separated into 3 categories, “today,” “later,” and “extra.” Only those truly today things make the today list. Those are the things I really can’t leave without doing.  “Later” is likely tomorrow or this week and “extra” are those big-picture items I just need more time to think about. This process has allowed me to keep everything on the list, but organize it in a way where I can feel successful while viewing what lies ahead.

4. Ask yourself these 3 questions – When you start to feel unbalanced or aren’t sure how the next decision will impact your balance, ask yourself these 3 questions. Think, process, and reflect before deciding to take something else on.

  • Will doing this serve my family?
  • Does this feel right in my heart?
  • Will doing this serve God/faith/your beliefs?

5. Honor Friday – Start your weekend early or at the very least on time. Honor and celebrate Friday in a way that allows you to capture that first night of the weekend. Keep next to your desk a “check-out” time for Fridays and see if it matches your expectations.

6. 1 leave early or arrive late day each week – Put it into your calendar. Hold yourself accountable to it. Spend that extra time ensuring you stay balanced.

7. 1 weekend day of no school – Checking email and working on schoolwork happens at home, all the time. Choose Friday night, Saturday, or Sunday and share with your family that you will not do it on at least that time each weekend.

I’d love to hear from you on what things you’ve tried to help you with balance!



Why I Will Cry at The MSU Football Game Today

IMG_2417.jpgThink about things that have been constant in your life since the year you were born. Try to make a list. I bet it’s a short one. If you are anything like me, there are only a couple. As you get older, the number becomes less and less. Being with my family at Spartan Stadium in the fall is one of the few constants I’ve had for 43 years. Our family has had season tickets for over 40 years, including this one. With everything that has changed in our lives, being at Spartan Stadium in the fall never really has.

I’m not ashamed to admit that I’ve never shied away from a good cry. It could happen when I’m happy, sad, proud, or just caught in the moment. Things that are full of traditions, constants, and tied to family? Add those up and you can almost guarantee I will cry.

When you put those two things together, you will get me crying today at Spartan Stadium around 6:50 pm. Most of that reason is what happens when I look at constant vs. changing things in my life.IMG_6323.jpg

Where I’ve lived has changed. Lake Odessa, Hillsdale, Comstock Park, Rockford, Cedar Springs, and Hudsonville. Plenty of change. But each of those years, I was in East Lansing, in Spartan Stadium, with my family. As a teenager, everything changes. Where I wanted to go to college changed daily. Being in that stadium each year just didn’t seem to go away. My parents got divorced earlier in my life. That changed our family’s makeup forever, but family members and I kept going to MSU football games. I got married, had kids, all type of changes. I started coaching basketball, stopped coaching, and now started a basketball training business. Lots of change, but not my attendance in East Lansing. My jobs have changed. K teacher, 3rd-grade, AP at one school, Principal at another, and then another. Plenty of changes. Not me being in Spartan Stadium.

IMG_0030.jpgBut maybe more relevant than anything else, people in my life have changed. Especially those who go to games with me. My Grandpa took me to games. When I went with him, my uncles and cousins were normally with us. My Mom and Dad took me to LOTS of games. I may have attended more games with my brother than anyone. He and his wife make a trip out at least once a year. My Grandpa and Dad are no longer alive. They are the first thing I think of when I walk into Spartan Stadium. I’d give just about anything to sit with them for one more game in that stadium. Now, I have the biggest constant in my life, my wife, by my side. I have my two kids who love being there with me. People have changed, but me being in Spartan Stadium didn’t. The moment just as pregame ends during the first game of the year when the team runs on the field and the band plays the fight song gets me every time. It’s when I stop and remember all of those people and all of those times in Spartan Stadium. I grab the hand or shoulder of my wife, Ally, and Myles.  I smile and cry at the same time. I’m so grateful for this constant in my life, which is now passed on to my kids. I can’t wait for that cry in a few hours.


Back to School: 11 Thoughts for Principals

The excitement builds each day as we get closer to the first day of school. This time can be busy for principals as we make personnel decisions, attend administrative team meetings, receive new PD and training, finalize schedules, welcome new students, host open house, and much more.  As I begin year #22 in education and my 10th as a principal, here are 10 things that are on my mind.

1. Teacher burn-out, quitting, and fewer people going into the profession are real problems. What action steps can you take this year, different or in addition to those in the past, to support individuals on your staff that might be battling those realities?

2. Push back against new laws/rules/regulations that are bad for kids. Encourage your district to use exemptions against the 3rd-grade reading law. Decades of research showing the negative impact on retention are not reversed because a governing body with minimal expertise in educating students passes a law.

3. Provide feedback to your most effective teachers. They have a burning desire for it and frankly, deserve it.

4. Think about one teacher on your staff that you haven’t yet built a strong personal relationship. Ask them more personal questions during the first few months of the year about their interests, kids, and background. Take notes if you need to. Have meaningful conversations with specific information when passing them in the hall. Take tangible steps to build that relationship.

5. Treat your staff as people first and employees second. Always. What is most important to them is their families. Support that. Always. With no questions asked.

6. The way you handle every interaction with students, parents, and staff sets the tone for the culture created in the school. If you show respect for people in every single situation, especially those when parents/students/staff are in high emotional states, it will set the expectation for how people are treated at the school. Respect the parent yelling at you, the student kicking you, and the staff member frustrated by you. The ability to show kindness and respect for those with differing opinions than ours is tragically missing in our society. Believe that you have the power to positively change that.

7. Don’t fall into the trap of focusing on the “bottom 30%” or just “students who need intervention.”  Don’t just hold data dialogues or team meetings on isolated segments of students. Focus on all kids. Emphasize growth for them in all areas, not just academically. Again, don’t just use rules and regulations imposed upon you when you know they aren’t best for kids. What is best for kids is assessing the progress of ALL of them and building plans for them ALL to grow.

8. Don’t use the word “low” when describing a student and their academic performance. Stop labeling kids based on an arbitrary timeline of learning and expectations that have significantly changed over time.  First, is this professional and kind?  If that was your child, is that how you would want others talking about them?  A more accurate phrase might be, “the learning acquisition levels of this student, which are individual and developmentally unique to them, have not yet matched the random timeline and skills we have decided they should have mastered at this time.”

9. You are not great at every single aspect of your job. It’s OK. Other principals are doing things in certain areas of their work that are better than you. It’s OK. You don’t have to be an expert at everything. Identify those areas that are not yet strengths for you (my list is long). Write them down. Find colleagues in your district, on social media, or in professional organizations that can support you in those areas. Show and share that vulnerability with your staff.

10. Delegate. Build capacity and trust others. There is simply not enough time for you to do it all. Communicate those priorities to staff, parents, and supervisors.

11. Keep your life in balance. You know your mental and emotional state better than anyone. Your time in education is a marathon, not a sprint. I don’t allow the job to overwhelm me, stress me out, or rattle me anymore. I know what to expect, self-assess regularly, and use strategies to prevent the walls from caving in on me. When people ask how I’m doing, “busy” will never be my answer. This is what I signed up for and I know the expectations and reality of the work. Be real and true with yourself and find ways to make sure you are the best version of yourself for your family and school.

We are fortunate enough to work in the greatest profession in the world. We have the ability to positively impact so many people on a daily basis. If I can support you and your work in any way, don’t be afraid to ask. 

7 Tips When Interviewing for a Teaching Position

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For the last decade I’ve been part of interview teams in the spring as we look to add new teachers to our district.  I love being part of that process, seeing new educators come into our profession with passion, energy, and ideas.  During those years, I’ve been part of hiring some amazing educators.  Other times, we might have missed out on a great candidate or the person just didn’t fare well in the interview.  I was part of interviewing again the last two weeks and there are 7 keys that I’d like to share which I think will help candidates increase their likelihood of landing a position.

  1.  Set yourself apart – I have seen this look at lot of different ways.  Everyone is going to pass around their binder or portfolio.  It could be the way you greet the committee, talking about recent happenings in their district.  Maybe it’s asking about how the M-STEP/ACT testing is going if that is currently going on.  It could be with what you leave with the team as you finish, something that looks and sounds different than anyone else.  How will you be different than all the others that walk through the room?
  2. Let them get to know you as a person – Find a way to share your interests outside of school, what is important to you, and the type of person you are.  Give them a little bit of your journey.  Interviewers sit there through long sessions.  Make sure they get to know you as a person first and an educator second.
  3. Share at least 3 educational passions – This can be a little tricky depending on the questions, but find a way to work into your answers the 3 educational items you are most passionate about.  It might be building relationships, literacy, data, collaboration, math workshop, technology, or conferring with writers.  Whatever those passions are, don’t leave the room without making them known.
  4. Sell the why for that job – Administrators don’t want to know that want to be a teacher, they want to know that you want to be a teacher in their district.  Drive to the community on the day of the interview or in advance.  Having lunch or coffee there.  Talk with people.  Get a vibe for what the district and community is about.  It’s great to look on the website, but it’s not the same as speaking to those authentic experiences.
  5. Elevator ending – Regardless of what the last question is, have your 30 second elevator pitch ready.  It’s time to sell yourself and all you are bringing to this position.  This is a much stronger finish than asking a question you may or may not care about the answer for.
  6. Don’t pigeonhole grade/building/job – Stay away from stating you want to be in a certain grade, department, or building.  That’s very likely to change in the coming years anyway.  It’s more about getting into the right district that’s a fit for you and figuring out the specific position later.  
  7. Community investment – During the interview, share the various ways you are going to impact the school and community outside of school hours.  That could be starting a club, coaching, helping with fine arts, volunteering in the community, lots of different things.  Share how you will impact kids outside of just those school hours.

Best of luck to all of those looking for their first job or a new job this spring!


What Does it Take? 5 Key Elements to Being a School Principal

images.jpgI love to read books and learn about leadership.  I REALLY love to read and learn about leadership in education. For a long time, I’ve thought long and hard about what key characteristics one must have to be a successful principal. About a decade into this work, I’m starting to put my thoughts into words. After not thinking about it for a while, I was recently asked at a conference, “what is your opinion on what it takes to be a great principal?” That got my mind working again. By writing this, I’m not speaking to any level of effectiveness I have or haven’t attained but instead a better idea of what it takes. I have a long ways to go to where I hope to be as a principal. I’m sure these thoughts will continue to evolve, but I sometimes think about turning them into a book or short article at some point. I hope to expand the information on each of these in the future, but here is my first draft.

1. Be a good person – Think about whatever characteristics you want that are needed for one to be a quality human being. Show integrity, be kind, give grace, be dependable, always honest, respect others, display great work ethic, etc. It all starts with being a good person. I have never met a great principal who was also not a great person. Sounds simple, I know, but that’s where it all starts. People will follow great people.

2. Believe in yourself – You will make hard decisions. You will be on an island at times. You will be questioned.  You will question yourself. You will make mistakes, some bigger than others. People in this position will need to be resilient as adversity is part of the job. our team will need to see you believe in yourself, what you do, and why you do it. But more than anything else, you will need to have that inner confidence and belief in who you are and what you do.

3. Inspire others to be better than even they imagined This is my X-factor element. Being able to identify and differentiate what each of your staff members need, then working to provide that, will be a never-ending journey. You have to know when to motivate, cheerlead, direct, inspire, and redirect. The ability to support and guide staff members to be their absolute best is a vital element to be a successful principal.

4. Love on kids – Your interactions with adults matters, it matters a lot. But there is nothing greater you do than impact kids. It’s why you get into the profession, to begin with. The ability to impact 100’s of kids on a daily basis is the greatest opportunity we have. I believe this is something you have or you don’t and you can see it instantly when you see a principal interact with kids.

5. Be Humble – Let’s be honest, I could’ve picked 20 elements. This one might not make the top 10 for many others, but it’s firmly in my top 5. While you have to have a belief in yourself, it’s about the team, the team, the team. Quotes like, “the smartest person in the room is the room” are ones that illustrate what being humble means. Being humble means you listen, really listen, to others. It means you are open-minded and seek to understand the perspectives of others. Being humble allows you to help grow your team to the best it can possibly be.

I know some very talented educators read my posts. I’d love to hear what you think about my 5 key elements or others you’d include.


20 Personal Thoughts on Education and Leadership

For the last 10 months, I’ve enjoyed some great exchanges with educators based on my  “not so deep,” #SimpleMessage, thoughts I’ve posted on Twitter most Friday mornings. I have no shortage of opinions on either of those topics and enjoy sharing my perspective with others. Their responses and thinking have greatly impacted me and allowed me to continue to grow in this profession. download.jpg

Here are 20 of those thoughts. Feel free to read the rest on Twitter @secorsig.

1. April 13, 2018Here’s my not so deep, surface level, Friday thought. As elementary educators, we need to put students in positions of academic adversity where they have to show intellectual persistence. We can’t send them to secondary ed w/out having encountered those challenges

2. April 20, 2018Here’s my not so deep, surface level, Friday thought. If someone walks up and asks you what you can improve upon in your job and you can’t make a list for them, you’ve stopped growing and you just don’t know it yet. And, “work too hard” doesn’t count

3. April 27, 2018 Here’s my not so deep, surface level, Friday thought. To achieve their highest potential, every educator needs someone in their district who believes you can be greater than even you ever imagined. Are you that person for someone else in your district?

4. May 11, 2018 Here’s my not so deep, surface level, Friday thought. “Teacher Appreciation Week” is a time to recognize people in the greatest profession in the world. But make this the icing on the cake. Do all you can to make those teachers feel valued n appreciated all yr long

5. May 18, 2018Here’s my not so deep, surface level, Friday thought. Educators, stop blaming parents. It’s tired, weak, and lame. What good does it do? Control what you can control. Work toward solutions. Stop pointing the finger. Figure out what you can fix and support

6. May 25, 2018Here’s my not so deep, surface level, Friday thought. I’m not a fan of public summer countdowns in classrooms or school offices. Don’t send the message that you can’t wait for it to be over. Got one in private, different story. Send the right message, a positive one

7. June 1, 2018My Friday thought. The workplace and our world are requiring us to develop a different type of thinker and person to meet the demands of today’s society. Our educational system grades/evaluates us using a rubric that doesn’t match that ask.Tough spot for schools

8. June 29, 2018My Friday thought. We ask all kinds of questions when interviewing prospective educators for jobs. I think two very important things get overlooked, often at the principal and central office level. How humble is that person? How well do they listen? #SimpleMessage

9. July 6, 2018Here’s my not so deep, surface level, Friday thought. We live in a world that assumes and almost pushes us to, take another step of professional advancement. While there are times when that is the right move, sometimes you are right where you are supposed to be SimpleMessage

10. August 10, 2018 Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought. I think a balanced calendar is what’s best for kids. I’m not sure that’s debatable. But if a district isn’t doing that, a free and comprehensive summer programming option for all students, including transportation, is necessary

12. September 7, 2018Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought: Principals, never say “my school.” Don’t say “my students” or “my building.” It’s ALWAYS “our.” Use “we” instead of “I.” That school was there long before you and will be there long after you are gone #SimpleMessage
13. September 14, 2018Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought: Relevant, relevant, relevant. When looking to plan PD its the #1 thing I consider. How relevant and impactful is what we are learning to their daily work with students? Excited to learn with the Jamestown team this afternoon #SimpleMessage
14. September 21, 2018Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought: Don’t glorify “busy.” We all get the same amount of hours and minutes in each day, week, month, and year. We all make choices about how we spend those. Everyone is busy. How are you prioritizing your time? It’s your choice #SimpleMessage
15. October 12, 2018Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought: Think about the amount of time spent in elementary schools getting kids to line up straight and quiet to walk down the hall. Ever been to a middle school or high school? Does that look the same? Is that time spent worth it? #JustAQuestion
16. October 19, 2018Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought: My first superintendent told me that the district didn’t pay me my salary to supervise lunch. If I did that every day, I’d miss so much teaching and learning. He said stop in the cafeteria to build relationships, not supervise
17. October 26, 2018Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought: One of the most important jobs a principal has is keeping their finger on the emotional status of their team. I’m always trying to figure out how individuals, small/large groups are doing and what I can do to provide support
18. November 16, 2018Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought: Be sure to praise things that a student can control. Stay away from “you’re smart” and “you’re cute.” Emphasize things students can control, like their work ethic, passion, effort, grit, resiliency after a mistake n kindness #SimpleMessage
19. January 11, 2019 Here’s my not so deep, Friday thought: When looking at interventions for students who need support, I am skeptical of the learning impact from a technology-based system. I’ll side on those students receiving instruction from a human educator trained to deliver it

Why Do Words of Affirmation Mean so Much to Me as a Principal?

I read a blog post last week where the blogger said it was a form of therapy for her to write her blog.  This might be a little bit of that for me.

I also know that sometimes we ask questions there are no answers for.  That might be the case for me here.  

I know that flushing things out in the writing process can add clarity to thinking.  Maybe that will come by the time I get to the end of this piece.

Today was Boss’s Day.  Our staff knows me very well.  I found outside my office IMG_6247.jpgdoor a great surprise of vitamin water, a convenience store gift card, and protein bars.  Those are some of my favorite things.  There was also a pile of cards with all types of comments, thoughts, appreciation, gratitude, and words of affirmation.  When I started to read their words and cry as I normally do (must admit I like a good cry), I looked around and noticed something.  I have saved all the notes from this same day last year.  I have cards saved on top of my shelf from as long as 4 years ago spanning a couple of different school districts.  It dawned on me that I read those things, frequently, almost daily.  Come to think of it, I have an email folder titled “happy” where I’ve saved emails that I go back and read occasionally.  They make me smile due to past moments of pride or joy.  Do I have a problem?  Or have I just uncovered something in these moments of reflection?

I started to think about offices or workspaces of others I know.  They don’t always have those things hanging around.  Why do I seem to NEED them when others don’t?  I’ve IMG_6245.jpgnever seen myself as lacking in self-esteem or confidence so I truly don’t think that is the reason.  In other aspects of my life, that outward showing of appreciation doesn’t seem as necessary as it does at school.  To go even further, it didn’t seem as impactful to me in my role as a teacher as it does now as a principal.

It’s an odd reflection to have on Boss’s Day (I prefer Leader’s Day).  I don’t think it makes me better or worse in my role than anyone else.  Maybe just different.  How different?  I’m not sure.  I certainly need to do some more thinking on why those words of affirmation have such a big impact on me.  But I must admit, those words brought a lot of smiles to my face today!